Pornography of the mind

This whole discussion on what beauty is, has made me think. That yes we as men decide what we like and what we think is beautiful. The thing is that you women decide how we are supposed to act and how we are supposed to treat you, in the exact same manner. That is why I have always thought that the female movie genre is a sort of pornography of the mind. It creates an alternate reality of what a relationship is supposed to be. The same as what pornography creates in the male psyche.

I just think that if you truly want to liberate yourselves as women you need to do the same as men and take some responsibility. That is the whole idea of being an independent woman, responsibility. If you don't want men to decide what is hot, don't ask! I can not remember a time when I have been at the mall with a significant other and had the question asked, "What do you think about these pants/top/dress/whatever?" If you don't want us to think that it is hot don't ask! Wear whatever you want and if you all do the same we will think you are hot no matter what it is. If the standard were collared dresses and floor length, we would think that was hot. That is the way it has been for centuries. Get the standard to change, and the minds of all men will follow.

Now back to the movie topic. I pose a question of rhetoric to all the females that may read this. How many of you have been watching a movie, like Sleepless in Seattle or City of Angels, etc. And thought, "I wish my husband/boyfriend could be more like the guy in that movie." I'm sorry to burst any bubbles here but most guys will never think that way, unless they are gay, and that is just because most gay guys are gay because they think like women. Never in my lifetime will I have an opportunity to come crawling after you in the rain and have a long embrace and an even sweeter, more passionate kiss. There will never be any white stallion with my golden locks flowing in the wind, ready to whisk you away into the sunset. Even a nice romantic walk is hard for us to come by, after a long day at work. But don't get me wrong, we try. We try to live up to expectations, just as you women try to live up to ours. It's the fact that we sit and point fingers at what is wrong with the other. We need to stop that, step back, and take a longer look at ourselves. We are all guilty. Let's not think of the potential in the sack that women have, or the potential that men could one day be on the cover of a harlequin romance novel. Take each other for the talented and beautiful people that we are, not looking for more. I liked what Windy said at the end of his post, Stop looking at their breasts. Well a word to the women, stop expecting men to reach the point of being Matthew Mcconaughey. Take us for the great and wonderful things that we do for you, and the talents that we posses as well.

Without Struggle There is No Progress!