You are the master of every situation...
So I guess I'll jump in and give my two cents today. I'll post an album I'm listening to lately later.
I'll publish part two of my treaty on judgement right now for your intellectual pleasure. If you haven't read part 1, it's on myspace.
So I have come to the conclusion that a lot of the angst/frustration/bad blood we have for those who judge harshly, especially in religious matters, all comes down to our own imperfections and insecurities. What it all boils down to is this: we are put off by people not being as "perfect" as we think they seem to be. I came to this epifany (sp?) while thinking about a discussion that max, scotty, and I had on judgement in the church. I came to realize more so than ever that perception and reality in the church are VERY different. Why is this so, and in what way? I'll explain...
We look at brother/sister Soandso who speaks up in church on a variety of topics, including some opinions that may seem to conflict with our own choices/opinions in life. Our own inadequacies warp our perception to the point where we forget the message, and attack the messenger. "They may be right or they may be wrong, but why do they have to rub it in my face? Why are they so bent on making me feel inadequate, and out-of-place?" This rush to judgement on our part is a symptom of pride.
Sometimes what some well-intentioned, or ill-intentioned person says is directly to us, and is infact meant to be a judgement of our character. This does not make our own rush to judgement any more warranted. How many times can you think back to experiences where you wish you would have handled a situation better? How many times have you thought "man, that was stupid. I have SO much to work on. Next time I'll do better" ? We should always do exactly that in these instances—cut ourselves some slack. We're not there yet. But, when others make mistakes in judging us, and we perceive an intent to hurt, what are we saying about Brother/sister Soandso? "You know better than to not be perfect? Why did you fall short of being perfect and hurt my feelings? I am not wanted here I can tell." This obviously sounds over-the-top, but in essence that is what we are saying. Please everyone cut me some slack, but I don't want to give anyone any. Especially those in church that I feel are "trying to look so perfect." What I have come to find as the solution for this situation is "cut them some SLACK!" Just saying it when you leave any less-than-perfect situation does wonders. I wish this were my own opinion, but this concept is as old as time itself. Our older brother taught it well, and it has come alive to me recently. Thanks for listening.
I'll publish part two of my treaty on judgement right now for your intellectual pleasure. If you haven't read part 1, it's on myspace.
So I have come to the conclusion that a lot of the angst/frustration/bad blood we have for those who judge harshly, especially in religious matters, all comes down to our own imperfections and insecurities. What it all boils down to is this: we are put off by people not being as "perfect" as we think they seem to be. I came to this epifany (sp?) while thinking about a discussion that max, scotty, and I had on judgement in the church. I came to realize more so than ever that perception and reality in the church are VERY different. Why is this so, and in what way? I'll explain...
We look at brother/sister Soandso who speaks up in church on a variety of topics, including some opinions that may seem to conflict with our own choices/opinions in life. Our own inadequacies warp our perception to the point where we forget the message, and attack the messenger. "They may be right or they may be wrong, but why do they have to rub it in my face? Why are they so bent on making me feel inadequate, and out-of-place?" This rush to judgement on our part is a symptom of pride.
Sometimes what some well-intentioned, or ill-intentioned person says is directly to us, and is infact meant to be a judgement of our character. This does not make our own rush to judgement any more warranted. How many times can you think back to experiences where you wish you would have handled a situation better? How many times have you thought "man, that was stupid. I have SO much to work on. Next time I'll do better" ? We should always do exactly that in these instances—cut ourselves some slack. We're not there yet. But, when others make mistakes in judging us, and we perceive an intent to hurt, what are we saying about Brother/sister Soandso? "You know better than to not be perfect? Why did you fall short of being perfect and hurt my feelings? I am not wanted here I can tell." This obviously sounds over-the-top, but in essence that is what we are saying. Please everyone cut me some slack, but I don't want to give anyone any. Especially those in church that I feel are "trying to look so perfect." What I have come to find as the solution for this situation is "cut them some SLACK!" Just saying it when you leave any less-than-perfect situation does wonders. I wish this were my own opinion, but this concept is as old as time itself. Our older brother taught it well, and it has come alive to me recently. Thanks for listening.
posted by El Dorko at 3/28/2006 09:45:00 AM
1 Comments:
Sam I just wanted t ogive you a quick comment. I love the thought process behind what you have said. I'm really glad that we as individuals can help each other to make decisions like this. Nice work
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